The Awkward Truth About Self-Care: It’s Not Always Bubble Baths

The Pinterest Problem with Self-Care

You know those Pinterest-perfect self-care routines? The ones with matching pajamas, glowing skin masks, and candles that cost more than your car insurance bill? Yeah… that’s not my life.

Don’t get me wrong, I wish I were that person — and no judgment to those who are. I’m sure it helps, and maybe it’s the burnout that prevents me from doing those things. Literally, I have the book Burnout sitting next to me. My intention is to read the next chapter… but instead I disassociate on my phone playing some dumb game that provides ZERO productivity.

Self-care gets glamorized as bubble baths and face masks, but here’s the awkward truth: real self-care is messy, boring, and sometimes wildly uncomfortable.

And if you’ve ever felt like you’re “failing” at self-care because your version looks more like crying in the shower or ignoring texts — hi, you’re in the right place. Welcome to the fun. 🦉

The Myth of “Pretty” Self-Care

We’re sold this idea that self-care = pampering. But true self-care? It’s turning down plans when you’re exhausted… or paying bills on time so your future self doesn’t panic. (I use this planner to keep myself on track — because my brain refuses to remember due dates on its own.)

Not exactly Instagram-worthy, right?

It’s taking care of responsibilities even when you don’t want to. Even when blowing money on something shiny sounds way more fun. (And sometimes, yes, it’s even blowing that money when it’s not the smartest choice. But then we start talking about self-sabotage and that’s a whole different direction… SQUIRREL! 😂)

The Ugly Side of Taking Care of Yourself

Sometimes self-care is:

• Finally making that doctor’s appointment you’ve been avoiding.
• Saying “no” to someone who drains your energy. (Try this book to learn how to say "NO".)
• Doing the laundry before it turns into a mountain of regret. (Currently mine is approaching Pikes Peak ⛰️).

It’s not sexy. But it’s necessary.

Redefining Self-Care (Purple Owl Style)

Here’s what I tell myself: if it helps future-me breathe easier, it counts as self-care. Even if it’s awkward, boring, or uncomfortable.

So no — you don’t need $50 bath bombs. You just need small choices that make your life less chaotic tomorrow. For me, that sometimes looks like jotting down 3 things in this simple self-care journal.

🦉 Your Self-Care Challenge

👉 This week’s challenge: Pick ONE awkward form of self-care and do it. Comment below what you chose — or DM me if it’s too weird to share publicly.